I got married before i went to spire and had a kid cause she was gagging for it i get tortured and lose like 300k of exp just so i stay good (i kept disobeying lol) when i get back my sprogs older and wont move from where the cot was and my wife aint no-where to be seen as my game glitched or some thing if i do see her she gunna get beheaded haha xD

The spouse system was pretty flawed, imo. My spouse divorced me and took both children, but I still had to pay for their upkeep though they were no where to be found in any town. I was unable to sell or rent out the two houses they had lived in as well. They went from being very happy to very angry with me without any real warning (this happened before I even went to the Spire), despite getting their favorite items and having attention paid to them regularly.

I think you are just experiencing the same bollocks we all did, sorry to say.

I hope they fix the system for III.